How to Deal with Difficult and Impossible People to Treat

There are normal people who can be treated without any novelty; But also, there are other relationships that demand a lot of attention from you. You can find these people wherever you go. What would your problem be? Maybe they think they know everything, or maybe they don't cooperate or admit that they made a mistake. Maybe they don't know how to interact in a healthy group.

When you meet a difficult and impossible person, ask yourself the following questions:

1. To what degree do I have to get involved with this person?

2. To what degree do I need to be involved with this person?

3. To what degree do I want to be involved with this person?

In general, difficult people are those who make us feel bad, and then they feel good. Dr. Les Parrott's book High Maintenance Relationships identifies some difficult or impossible relationships that require a lot of attention:

• The critic: He is the one who chooses himself to complain, someone who constantly blatantly pushes others away.

• The martyr: he is always the victim and someone full of self pity.

• The pessimistic: he is the one who looks at the half-empty glass, and expresses himself with these phrases: "It will never work."

• The flattener: It is one who does not know the word touch. His comments hurt; but, he doesn't care.

• The gossip: he is the one full of envy.

• The consumer: he can be seen as a workaholic and is controlling.

On the other hand, impossible people are those who become predators or potential consumers of your time and energy. They do it until you are completely dry. If you don't do something about it, you will end up dedicating yourself almost exclusively to them. How can you recognize these impossible people? First of all, they think their needs are more important than yours. Second, the rules apply to others but not to them. Third, it is never your mistake and your motives are pure. Fourth, they never wait because they don't have an impulse to control them. If they don't get it their way, watch out! because they confuse their own identity. Integrity is a foreign concept to them. Among some impossible people that we can name are:

• Narcissistic: They think the world revolves around them. Many are talented, although they are not as good as they think they are. What they do best is focus on themselves.

• Antisocial: Another cunning person is antisocial. They are very dangerous. They have little development of their consciousness. They can be involved with others, but without connecting. The daily rules don't follow them. They often take risks at the expense of other people.

• Dramatic: This person is also called hysterical. From the social point of view this person does connect, many times we can enjoy his company. His need for attention is insatiable. There are no barriers when it comes to seeking care. They need attention to be positive. They say, "I just want everyone to think how wonderful I am."

• And other personality disorders such as schizophrenics, paranoids, extreme personality, compulsive obsession, dependent, and passive aggressive to name a few.

What does the Bible tell us about interacting with impossible people?

If you meet a critic, martyr, narcissist, antisocial or histrionic, which is the same as hysterical; What can you do? How can you act in front of people with these kinds of attitudes or disorders? Let me mention three (3) biblical tips that can help us avoid falling into the game of these difficult and impossible people:

1. Be careful not to fall. (1 Corinthians 10.12) - Do not trust yourself, you can fall into

their nets

2. Be careful, then, how you live. (Ephesians 5.15) - We must seek to act as wise all the

time

3. Be careful, no one is found wanting. (Hebrews 4.1) - The fear (reverence) of God and

what we profess, should lead us to

avoid falling into bad practices that

separate us from our faith.

Remember, there is always a reason for all warnings. The question you should ask yourself is: With which people should I or do I need to be more careful when they are around? Take this rule and you will avoid difficulties with people who have these disorders.

But above all, pray to God, he is our refuge, our tower and castle, our soon help in times of difficulty. We want to interact with everyone, but for this, it is necessary to know more about these personalities, and in this way, to be able to help them better without weakening our faith in the attempt. †